My First Time


Stories of sex and sexuality from women like you
Edited and compiled by Jennifer Thorpe

Do you remember your first time?

As women, we all have a story within us about a sexual experience that was unforgettable.

Perhaps it was incredible, earth shattering, life-changing, and wonderful. Perhaps it wasn’t romantic or pleasurable, but awkward, painful or forced upon us. Many of us have kept our experiences secret because, by exposing our stories, we expose ourselves and our feelings around sex.

In My First Time, Southern African women have shared their stories about their significant first time experiences of sex and sexuality. This is a collection of honest, powerful, and brave accounts. Some joyful, others funny and some heartbreaking, but all of them important for women, and hopefully men, to read.

This is the perfect book for you to read to reflect on your own first times. This is the perfect book to share with your mother, siblings, and friends.

Jennifer Thorpe

Jennifer Thorpe

Editor Jen Thorpe is a feminist writer. She’s passionate about sharing women’s stories and women’s writing. She is the creator and curator of stories for the My First Time project and the editor of FeministsSA.com. Jen has an MA in Politics from Rhodes University and is studying towards an MA in Creative Writing at UCT. She lives in Cape Town with her boyfriend Mike and her two cats.

The contributors include: Jen Thorpe, Karabo Kgoleng (well known radio and media personality), Sarah Britten, and Dorothy Black , as well as many other women.

“I was enthralled to the point that I actually read it one sitting. I found it to be witty, funny, relatable and most importantly… real. I began to understand that I was not the only woman on this planet who has gone through some really challenging life experiences and in a way, this really made me feel connected to them. It’s almost like I was being binded to them by the invisible threads that make us all women.”

Gadeeja Abbas, News24

“Sharing their inimate experiences on Jen Thorpe’s blog (myfirsttimessa.com) women reveal their darkest secrets and discuss their hopes and dreams. In her collection ‘My First Time’, Thorpe has curated these stories. Some are joyful, others devastating”

Times Live

“My First Time is a brave, moving, compelling read. It should be a compulsory addition to the libraries of South African schools, because it’s easy to imagine that it might be a hugely helpful read for teenagers in particular (and not just girls – boys too). But it’s not a sex education handbook, or anything like it. They say you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover, but in this case the jacket tagline really sums up the contents with simple accuracy: “Stories on sex and sexuality, from women like you.”

Rebecca Davis, Daily Maverick

“Overall, the book is a provocative and engaging women’s read and will undoubtedly make the reader recall his or her own first time experiences… The book provides an insightful and qualitative perspective, adding to the existing research on women’s sexuality. Furthermore, it aims to remove the secrecy, apparent self-loathing and shame that surrounds women and their sexuality.”
Unathi Nopece, Agenda

“This collection surpasses the standard. The stories range from touching, to funny, to heartbreaking to downright horrifying.”
Tiah Beautenment